Relying on Motivation or Willpower

Hello team! It’s me, Christopher Lawrence with the Healthy Transformations Program. HealthyTransformations.ca. Why am I sitting in front of a fireplace? Well first of all, I started this all by myself. Didn’t even need a match. Talented! And if I turn it up, it sounds like my house is on fire! Do you hear that? Okay that’s- Slow down. So why am I in front of a fireplace and what does this have to do with weight loss and reducing inflammation? Well, there’s some of the obvious things like inflammation is like a fire and it burns in our body. But I’ll let Mike talk about those kinds of things. The good doctor Breen. What I would like to talk about is motivation versus- motivation and willpower versus- Oh, I lost my train of thought. Motivation and willpower versus behavioural change. So- What I want to talk about is motivation and willpower versus behavioural change.

So motivation is the thing that starts the fire. That’s willpower. It feels really good. It feels really good. The problem is that motivation is an emotion. That’s what it is. Have you ever felt one emotion your entire life forever? Me either. The answer is no. Our emotions change all the time. So how could we expect to stay motivated all the time? It doesn’t make sense. What we need to do- Sorry, my thighs are burning so bad right now! ‘Cause I’m kinda crouching on a couch to get this beautiful angle. Of my fire which just looks like burning white flames in this camera. Anyway. So we don’t want to rely on motivation because we haven’t had-because much like emotion, motivation is not sustainable. But what we do wanna rely on is habit change. Practicing habit change. So if you’re relying on motivation which feels good and you need to act on that motivation for sure. If you’re relying on it long term it actually doesn’t have a very good outcome. You have to rely on habit change. Practice. Being gritty. Making the hard choice. It totally sucks sometimes. But it’s totally one hundred percent possible for all of us to do it because you have somewhere in your life you’ve already done this. And we just wanna leverage that and keep working on it.

It’s not about throwing in the towel and saying “I’m failing again” it’s about saying “Geeze, this is practice and this is one of those times where practice feels hard”. One of the skills that I’m working on right now in my life is learning to play the piano. Eating correctly can be very much the same. There’s new skills involved. You know I make a lot of mistakes. I mean, learning one simple piece I might make hundreds of mistakes. And it gets frustrating sometimes, right? But we know when we’re learning a sport or an instrument or a new job that there’s gonna be some frustrating times. That we’re not gonna get it right away. Why would we expect anything different when we’re learning how to eat correctly? It’s not a straight path. Sometimes it’s a tangled web and a complete mess for a little while and it can be frustrating! Super frustrating. But we can get back on track and lean into it and keep going and going and going and making correct decisions until our average-ness of those decisions increases and increases and increases. Right? It’s not about “I ate a doughnut so I’m throwing it all in”. And it’s like, well you might for a day or two but maybe it’s only a day or two this time and not months. And so your average-ness of that correct choice, that correct behaviour is increasing, increasing. Give yourself a break, man. You deserve it. It’s hard to do this stuff sometimes. But, you know, you can have a team with you. You can create your own community or you can check us out at HealthyTransformations.ca. Myself and doctor Breen, we’ve got lots of information on there. we keep trying to put more information on there. It’s a big problem in our world. Incorrect eating. And you know what? We’re gonna change it. Just one person at a time. It’ll come slow, but it’s coming. Thanks very much, folks. Take care.

Community / Influencer

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Why am I wearing a parka? Christopher Lawrence with the Healthy Transformations Program. Dr. Breen is not with me, but I bet he’s wondering why I’m wearing a parka indoors. Actually, I’m gonna go hang out with some friends in a few minutes, friends that I really like, who I surround myself with, who are really supportive, and sometimes they challenge me too much. Kyle, if you’re watching this, you’re not a good person. But what does that have to do with Healthy Transformations, weight loss, changing food behaviors, and food related behaviors, and food habits, and that kind of thing? Well, actually, I thought this was a perfect opportunity to do a video, perfect opportunity to do a video, enunciation matters. I thought it was a perfect opportunity to make a video because I was reminded about how important it is to surround yourself with the right community. When we talk about weight loss, reducing inflammation, all of that happens through eating correct food. It’s the eating the correct food sustainably for the rest of your life, that can be a bit of a challenge. So, one of the ways that we do that is we look at all aspects of your environment.

So, what are some of the aspects of environment that we want to, does it look like I’m floating on the ceiling right now? Yeah. Wooo. What are some of the aspects of your environment that you want to pay attention to? I’m just gonna talk about one today, but that one is about community and culture. So, certainly who we hang out with, influences what we eat. If we go out, think about this for a second, if we go out with a group of friends, and the first person orders a salad, the people after that might also order a salad. You know, and that sometimes happens, that sometimes doesn’t. I know that lots of folks have changed their mind about what they’re gonna eat, based off of what somebody else ordered. Where I see this mostly happen is at dessert. If the first person says that they don’t want dessert, mostly everybody else does too. So if you’re like, “I need to be the first person, “cause if everyone else has dessert, “I’m gonna have dessert, so when they come and ask, “I’m gonna say I don’t want any dessert.” And you just kinda cut everybody else off. Chances are, they’re probably not gonna order dessert either. The funny thing is, sometimes we can say no to dessert, but then our friend gets it, they bring two spoons anyway. “I didn’t want dessert, dammit! “Why’d you bring two spoons?” But now I feel compelled to try it, and you know, sugar’s like crack for some of us. Not me. So it can be a little bit challenging to stay away from.

So, the idea is that you surround yourself with people who like to eat healthy, when you can. And you become an influencer and a leader when you’re making choices. And this is one of the key ways that we can adjust our environment. Kinda cool, right? And then you become a little bit of an influencer in a super subtle way, and it can have a massive impact on your friends and family. Folks, Christopher Lawrence, healthytransformations.ca. I don’t know what that means, it’s some symbol that people do. I’m just excited about life! Okay, guys, Christopher Lawrence healthytransformations.ca, we will catch you in the next one. Please do reach out to us if you have any food related questions. Dr. Breen and myself are here to help!